things you need to give up

i found this little list titled: 50 things you need to give up today. it made me realize that there are a lot of things that i need to give up. they aren't doing me any good or making me a better person, so i'm saying good riddance.

here's some of my favorites from the list:

1. Give up trying to be perfect. – The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done. 
2. Give up comparing yourself to others. – The only person you are competing against is yourself.
3. Give up dwelling on the past or worrying too much about the future. – Right now is the only moment guaranteed to you.  Right now is life.  Don’t miss it. this is probably the one i struggle with the most.
4. Give up waiting. – What we don’t start today won’t be finished by tomorrow.  Knowledge and intelligence are both useless without action.
5. Give up trying to avoid mistakes. – The only mistake that can truly hurt you is choosing to do nothing simply because you’re too scared to make a mistake.
6. Give up saying, “I can’t.” – As Henry Ford put it, “Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you are right.”
7. Give up trying to be everything to everyone. – Making one person smile can change the world.  Maybe not the whole world, but their world.  Start small.  Start now.
8. Give up thinking you’re not ready. – Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises.  Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.
9. Give up making mountains out of molehills. – One way to check if something is worth mulling over is to ask yourself this question: “Will this matter in one year’s time?  Three years?  Five years?  If not, then it’s not worth worrying about.
10. Give up trying to live up to the expectations of others. – Work on it for real and exceed your own expectations.  Everything else will fall into place..
11. Give up letting your thoughts and feelings bottle up inside. – People are not mind readers.  They will never know how you feel unless you tell them.
12. Give up avoiding change. – However good or bad a situation is now, it will change.  That’s the one thing you can count on.  So embrace change and realize that change happens for a reason.  It won’t always be easy or obvious at first, but in the end it will be worth it.
13. Give up relationships with people who bring you down. – Saying “no” to right people gives you the time and resources required to say “yes” to right opportunities.  Spend time with nice people who are smart, driven and likeminded.
14. Give up being shy. – Network with people.  Meet new people.  Ask questions.  Introduce yourself.
15. Give up worrying about what others think of you. – Unless you’re trying to make a great first impression (job interview, first date, etc.), don’t let the opinions of others stand in your way.  What they think and say about you isn’t important.  What is important is how you feel about yourself.
16. Give up trying to control everything. – Life is an unpredictable phenomenon.  No matter how good or bad things seem right now, we can never be 100% certain what will happen next.  So do you best with what’s in front of you and leave the rest to the powers above you.
17. Give up following the path of least resistance. – Life is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something worthwhile.  Don’t find the easy way out.  Do something extraordinary.
18. Give up thinking others are luckier than you. – The harder you work, the luckier you will become.
19. Give up making emotional decisions. – Don’t let your emotions trump your intelligence.  Slow down and think things through before you make any life-changing decisions.
20. Give up focusing on what you don’t want to happen. – Focus on what you do want to happen.  Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story.  If you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right.
21. Give up taking yourself so seriously. – Few others do anyway.  So enjoy yourself and have a little fun while you can.
22. Give up thinking about the things you don’t have. – Appreciate everything you do have.  Many people aren’t so lucky.
23. Give up doubting others. – People who are determined do remarkable things.  Remember, the one who says it can’t be done should never interrupt the one doing it.
24. Give up fussing with every beauty product on the market. – Good looks attracts the eyes.  Personality attracts the heart.  Be proud to be you.  That’s when you’re beautiful.
25. Give up trying to fit in. – Don’t mold yourself into someone you’re not.  Be yourself.  Oftentimes, the only reason they want you to fit in is that once you do they can ignore you and go about their business.
26. Give up trying to be different for the sake of being different. – Nonconformity for the sake of nonconformity is conformity.  When people try too hard to be different, they usually end up being just like everyone else who is trying to be different.  Once again, be yourself.
27. Give up trying to avoid risk. – There’s no such thing as ‘risk free.’  Everything you do or don’t do has an inherent risk.

and here's some of my own:

    28. Give up regrets. - Regrets don't help anything, you know that. 

    29. Give up negative self talk. - Don't allow yourself to become a self-fulfilling prophesy.

    30. Give up wasting time. - Make every second count.

   31. Give up thinking you're not good enough.- You are good enough, no matter what anyone says.

    32. Give up holding on. - When you finally let go of the past, something better comes along.

    33. Give up unrealistic expectations. - You'll only be disappointed in the end.

    34. Give up letting others determine your happiness- Only you can decide that. 

is there anything you need to give up? as i was going through that list of 50 things, i was thinking, yup, don't need that, don't want this, get rid of that. so join me in saying, good riddance to bad rubbish!

day 6: a song that reminds you of somewhere. again, this has to do with my lovely friends/roommates and our trip  to california. taylor made a random mix of cd's and didn't even know this song, but we all ended up loving it.